May 14th, 2012Ballroom dancing for guys I

In recent months I’ve gotten so much feedback from people I’ve talk to that I’ve decided to write a short series of articles explaining why ballroom dancing is good for guys.

It’s a perfect answer to “What do you do?”. Have you ever been at social gatherings where you talk to someone you don’t know and they ask you the dreaded “what do you do?” question? It’s the question that no matter how exciting and exotic profession you have it just doesn’t impress people. Another question that I usually ask people (or they ask me) is “what do you do for fun?”. Very few have interesting answer. But my answer is always “I dance ballroom”. And the reaction is always “Wow!”. And then as conversation develops and I tell them I know all 5 Ballroom dances (Waltz, Foxtrot, Tango, Quickstep and Viennese Waltz) and 5 Latin dances (Rumba, Cha Cha, Jive, Samba and Paso Doble). The reaction I usually get from that is almost always “Amazing” and “I’m really impressed”. Tell that to anyone and the conversation becomes so much more interesting and exciting.

It’s a perfect thing to do on a first date. If you’re like most men, you have to plan something exciting for you and the lady whether it’s a first date, anniversary or even the “date” when you’ve been married for a while. ¬†You think to yourself – do I take her to some boring dinner where we sit across from each other and talk all night, or we grab a quick drink and you take her for something “a little more exciting”. Like Salsa dancing. Salsa basic step is pretty easy to learn, plus if you can ad a spin or two, the lady will be in awe on “how good you are”. You can even read it from smiles on their faces. One hour of dancing usually does more to impress her than anything else you would be doing. Dancing for a date never gets old or boring because there’s so much you can do – choose different dances, switch locations¬†etc.

There’s always a shortage of men who can dance. Many ladies would be dancing but they can’t find a partner. Some of them used to dance, but had to quit because they couldn’t find the right partner. Others would like to learn how to dance but they’re not sure if there will be a partner for them. Others still are so passionate about dance, they’re paying for private lessons where they dance with an instructor. Then they go to a ballroom dance club where they sit alone for entire evening until someone asks them to dance. You come over, you dance with her and she thanks you for dancing with her and tells you she was sitting there entire evening until you came along.

Guys who can dance have an amazing body posture. Just look at this guy:

Ever wondered how these dancers move? Your body changes. You develop muscles and you become fit. Its good cardio workout especially if you can do fast dances such as Cha Cha, Jive or Viennese Waltz.

In ballroom dancing guys get to be … guys. As in guy leads, lady follows. Guy decides what dance figure the couple is going to do. The stronger lead he is the better. Strong lead means you get to gently push her around where she needs to go. Sounds bizarre but ladies like it – they don’t have to guess what to do or where to go – its easier for them.

So go ahead – try dancing. You might even decide you like it and want to learn more and more, enter competitions or even teach it to other people.




  1. I just saw Iveta and Gherman last weekend, and I clodun’t disagree with you more. They likewise performed at an amateur competition and they were substantially better than the competitors even though it was only a showcase. You have to keep in mind that at both performances, they were not competing in 10 Dance World Championship events, such as they won in 2009 and 2008. In October, 2009 , they won 1st place in all 10 dances. Their dance ability, whether it be in competition or show, is anything but unsubstantial. Some interesting Facts about Iveta:As a child Iveta Lukosiute began learning ballroom dance in her native Lithuania where she was accepted as a student in the prestigious Zuvedra School .At 17 years of age Iveta with her mother came to America and settled in Chicago where she continued to study dance for six years. She competed as an amateur in all major competitions across America, winning practically all of them. While still in Chicago she was a member of the Joell Hall Dance Ensemble studying classical ballet, jazz and modern dance. Iveta moved to New York in 2003 to form a new professional partnership with Gherman Mustuc. Aside from dancing with Gherman, she teaches the Princeton University Ballroom Dance Team and coaches other competitive dancers in New York and New Jersey.

Leave a Comment